“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”
~ the most common regret of the dying
According to a nurse who has counseled the dying in their last days, this is the most common regret of the dying. Does that stop you in your tracks? Are you living a life that is true to you?
The other top regrets of the dying are:
I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
I wish that I had let myself be happier.
What do the above regrets have in common? They are all reflective of a life dominated by fulfilling other people’s expectations of us, keeping up with the Jones’s, living without intention, and letting our to-do lists dictate how we spend our time rather than what we truly value.
What are Values?
Values are the basic beliefs we have about that which is good, desirable, or worthwhile. Knowing your values and making values-based decisions can help you take purposeful action that help us become the person we want to be. Without you realizing it, your values are effecting how you show up in your relationships, at work, as a parent, in your family, and how you spend your time.
More importantly, what are your values?
I often hear clients say that they don’t know themselves very well. What I find that means is that they don’t know what they value. Maybe they’ve been trying to live out their parents values for them, or their values have become misguided as the years have gone on.
Knowing your values and making values-based decisions leads to:
- higher self-confidence
- strong self-esteem
- healthy sense of self
- enhanced relationships
- decreased regret, shame, and unease
Does your daily calendar reflect what you truly value?
Living a life out of sync with your values can leave you feeling a profound sense of emptiness. Without the meaning and purpose that values provide, you may feel that something is off in your life, but you’re not sure what. That’s where a Values Discovery Session can help.
Values Discovery Sessions
Value discovery sessions are a great option for individuals or couples to reconnect with what truly matters to them. In this 2-hour session, you’ll sort through 200+ values to determine what your top values are. From there, you’ll discover how to live in sync with these values, even during times of pain and struggle.